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Resonance makes the heart grow fonder
wildly uncomfortable, safe events
When Belonging becomes Depending
When the need to belong outweighs the desire for change.
People will often stay in painful situations just to feel like they belong. Social isolation is as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day and twice as harmful as obesity. One in five Americans struggles with chronic loneliness, which explains why so many choose to belong over freedom—even when it hurts. Our deep need to belong can make us stick with toxic relationships, jobs, or communities rather than risk being alone. The fear of isolation often outweighs the discomfort of staying stuck.
"There is a difference between drama and chaos. Drama creates tension, chaos creates momentum"
Beginnings and Endings at the Same Time
The Paradox of Creative Destruction
A testament to nature's wisdom—where endings are not just losses but invitations for innovation, rebirth and new beginnings. And even though we know this; Forests regenerate after wildfires, rivers carve new paths after floods, there is a sweet resistance to the destruction, even though we know In every cycle, what fades makes way for something vibrant and new — we would rather the status quo, that the ultimate freedom.
WHAT WE DO
Constellate Actualize Synchronize Attune
There is a Method to our Randomness
When you come into a space you want to know what you are in for but sometimes, it's the not knowing — that makes it that much more powerful.
FREEDOM
WISDOM
GROOVE
PLENTY
Behavioral Choreography & Creative Leadership
SYNCHRONIZING
The New World
The Vision
Systemic Constellations & Movements of the Spirit Mind
ATTUNING
The Interworlds
The Viewpoint
Which question sometimes pops into my head?
Which question peaks my curiosity?
Where is my place?
Where is creativity for me?
How did I end up here again?
What am I missing?
Which discomfort does my brain or body tell me I am feeling today?
Anxiety
Depression
Stress
Burnout
OUR EVENT STYLES
Constellations, Rituals, Immersions and Special Events
Our application of constellation is an expanded vision of Bert Hellinger's work. We honor the tradition and his progressive vision and therefore our events are progressive and experiencial.
WE BELIEVE IN...
A Space Full of Grace and Sillyness
because 'the work' can be too serious sometimes.
Sometimes doing 'the work' feels like doing a triathlon; swimming through a swamp of repressed memories, biking uphill against generational trauma, and the running — is dodging other people’s projections. Relief hits when you have the occasional urge to laugh at how absurdly hard you’ve been working for that finish line."
There's a method to our randomness
The Status Quo
The percentage of people who resist change depends on the context—psychological, organizational, or social. Academic research provides several insights:
1. General Resistance to Change
Research on personality and change resistance suggests that around 50-70% of people exhibit some level of resistance to behavioral change, particularly those high in neuroticism and low in openness to experience.
Source: Oreg, S. (2003). Resistance to Change: Developing an Individual Differences Measure. Journal of Applied Psychology.
Studies on habit persistence suggest that up to 80% of people revert to old habits after attempting change, such as in health behaviors (smoking cessation, diet changes).
Source: Lally et al. (2010). How Are Habits Formed: Modelling Habit Formation in the Real World. European Journal of Social Psychology.
2. Organizational Change Resistance
According to studies on organizational behavior, 35-50% of employees actively or passively resist workplace change (new policies, leadership shifts, digital transformations).
Source: Erwin & Garman (2010). Resistance to Organizational Change: Linking Research and Practice. The Leadership & Organization Development Journal.
3. Innovation Adoption and Change
Everett Rogers' Diffusion of Innovations theory suggests that 50% of people (late majority + laggards) are resistant or slow to adopt change:
Innovators: 2.5%
Early Adopters: 13.5%
Early Majority: 34%
Late Majority (Skeptical Adopters): 34%
Laggards (Resist Change Most Strongly): 16%
Source: Rogers, E. (2003). Diffusion of Innovations (5th ed.).
Conclusion
While context matters, at least 50-70% of people exhibit some level of resistance to change, with about 30-50% actively resisting in most scenarios. The degree depends on personality, past experiences, and external factors like social and organizational environments.
We would prefer chronic illness than isolation.
Individuals often choose to remain in harmful situations to satisfy their intrinsic need to belong. Research indicates that social isolation poses health risks comparable to smoking 15 cigarettes daily and is twice as detrimental as obesity. citeturn0search7 This profound need for connection can lead individuals to endure negative environments rather than face isolation. Studies have shown that one in five Americans suffers from chronic loneliness, highlighting the lengths to which people will go to avoid social isolation. This drive for belonging can result in individuals remaining in detrimental situations, prioritizing social connection over personal well-being.
References:
Holt-Lunstad, J., Smith, T.B., Baker, M., Harris, T., & Stephenson, D. (2015). Loneliness and Social Isolation as Risk Factors for Mortality: A Meta-Analytic Review. Perspectives on Psychological Science. citeturn0search7
Harvard Graduate School of Education. (2023). A Crisis of Belonging. citeturn0search1
American Psychological Association. (2023). How the need to belong drives human behavior, with Geoffrey L. Cohen, PhD. citeturn0search4
Over Zero & American Immigration Council. (2023). The Belonging Barometer: The State of Belonging in America. citeturn0search6
Baumeister, R.F., & Leary, M.R. (1995). The Need to Belong: Desire for Interpersonal Attachments as a Fundamental Human Motivation. Psychological Bulletin. citeturn0search8
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