THE HOUSE OF WISDOM

creativity & chaos

I'm stuck in the dark, but you're my flashlight...

Jessie J (2015)

Change Happens When We Become Who We Are

The Paradoxical Theory of Change

Change happens naturally when we become who we are, rather than striving to become something we are not. Forcing change leads to resistance, stagnation and procrastination. The problem is the personal growth industry has a culture of 'doing' and 'taking action.' So we need to listen to what the body has to tell us.

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You've done the courses and trainings and still feel like you need to know more.

We've been told knowledge is power. Thanks Sir Francis Bacon in 1597. It's been 3000 years, you would think someone would start banging a different drum. Today 'learning' is a 4.1 billion dollar industry in 2025, but the way to reduce anxiety is to get creative, not learn more.

What is creativity for me?

THIS HOUSE IF FOR YOU IF YOU...

want to reduce anxiety and get your wise on

If you...

have no idea how to engage with creativity, because you don't think you are a creative person.

are experiencing a chronic illness and  find the superpower rhetoric annoying.

are experiencing divorce, a breakup and in recovery from active use of substances.

are recovering from rescuing and people pleasing but they still show up sometimes.

have relationship difficulties and  blame others or take the blame.

like parts of yourself but don't love all the parts.

doubt yourself, but mostly because other people doubt you.

get strong feelings of rejection

feel burnout, unmotivated and unclear and are sick of blaming  and complaining.

know that you are a perfectionist and proud of it but sometimes wish you weren't.

have a new diagnosis and don't know what to do with all of the emotions.

The House of Freedom

Chronic Wiseness

1 — ORDER: Constellating The Transformation Paradox

2 — MOTIF: Actualizing "We are lost until we are sound."

3 — TIME: Synchronizing Chaos & Creativity

4 — SPACE: Attuning The Chronic Whyness

5 — ENERGY: Finding home through Intergenerational Wisdom: Good for the Greater Good

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ORDER

EVERYTHING BELONGS AND EVERYTHING IN GOOD ORDER

CONSTELLATING
The Transformation Paradox

Transformation happens when you stop chasing it.

It’s not the chaos itself that causes suffering—it’s our resistance to it. When we expand our capacity to hold both chaos and creation, destruction and renewal, we unlock profound change.

2

MOTIF

RECURRING AND RE-FRAMING PATTERNS

ACTUALIZING
We Are Lost Until We Are Sound

 Falling to grace

The stark reality is that we will remain lost and alone until we acknowledge that we know nothing — and we have nothing new to teach anyone.

3

TIME

IN RHYTHM WITH YOURSELF

SYNCHRONIZING
Chaos & Creativity

making good judgements about where to put your time

The tension point between chaos and creativity and how it keeps you paralyzed

4

SPACE

A DYNAMIC WAY OF RELATING TO SPACE

ATTUNING
Chronic Wiseness

the exclamation mark that ends cycles 

The enduring wisdom of lived experience.

5

ENERGY

MOVING BEYOND SELF-INTEREST
We explore

TIWAZ
justice, sacrifice and order

finding home 
C.A.S.A: Intergenerational Wisdom

Your ancestors didn't just hand down trauma, there are things you can't see, because the pain is so big. We support you to dissipate the pain, so you can see clearly their views in a different light.

GOOD FOR THE GREATEST GOOD
GOOD FOR THE GREATER GOOD
GOOD FOR THE PEOPLE AROUND ME
GOOD FOR ME, MYSELF & WHY

1 — ORDER: Constellating The Transformation Paradox in Personal and Organizational Contexts

The transformation paradox in personal development highlights the contradictions individuals face when undergoing deep change. It encompasses several key characteristics:

Navigating Without a Clear Path – Personal transformation often begins in uncertainty, relying on tacit knowledge that only becomes apparent through lived experience. Growth emerges from engaging with the unknown rather than following

Expanding Awareness Beyond the Self – True transformation involves more than self-improvement; it requires an expanded awareness of reality, relationships, and interconnectedness. Personal growth is not just about individual change but also about recognizing one’s role within a larger system. (Association for Transpersonal Psychology)

Balancing Adaptability and Resistance – While adaptability is essential for transformation, it often clashes with a deep-seated desire for stability. The paradox lies in needing to embrace change while simultaneously confronting the discomfort of letting go of old identities, habits, and beliefs. (McKinsey & Company)

Embracing Contradictions in Self-Leadership – Growth requires the ability to hold opposing qualities—such as confidence and humility, stability and change—without rejecting either. This paradoxical mindset fosters deeper learning and self-transformation.


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2 — MOTIF: Actualizing "We are lost until we are sound."

The phrase "I once was lost, but now am found" originates from the Christian hymn "Amazing Grace," penned by John Newton in 1772. This line reflects Newton's personal transformation from a life of moral and spiritual confusion to one of enlightenment and redemption.

In the Bible, the motif of being "lost" and subsequently "found" is prominent, especially in the Gospel of Luke. Parables such as the Lost Sheep, the Lost Coin, and the Prodigal Son illustrate the joy in heaven over one sinner who repents. For instance, Luke 15:10 states, "In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents."

While these narratives aim to convey themes of redemption and divine love, some interpretations can have adverse psychological effects. The concept of being "lost" until one conforms to specific religious beliefs may lead to feelings of guilt, shame, anxiety, and depression among individuals who do not share those beliefs. This internal conflict can result in identity crises and emotional distress, as individuals grapple with the fear of eternal punishment or ostracism. Such experiences are often referred to as religious trauma, encompassing the psychological impact of harmful religious teachings or practices.

Revising the phrase to "We are lost until we are sound" shifts the focus from external validation to internal well-being. Achieving a 'sound' state emphasizes personal mental and emotional stability, suggesting that individuals find their way through self-awareness and inner harmony rather than external affirmation.

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3 — TIME: Synchronizing Chaos & Creativity

Academic research has extensively explored the intricate relationship between chaos and creativity, highlighting how transformation emerges from this interplay.

Chaos and Creativity

Studies indicate that highly creative individuals often navigate between order and chaos, utilizing this dynamic tension to foster innovative ideas. This balance allows for the spontaneous reorganization of thoughts, leading to creative insights. Neuroimaging research supports this, showing that during restful states, the brain's association cortices are active, suggesting a self-organizing system at work.

Transformation Through Creativity

The process of transformation is closely linked to creativity. Engaging in creative activities can lead to personal growth and change, as it involves exploring new possibilities and perspectives. This transformative experience is often facilitated by embracing uncertainty and disorder, which can lead to novel solutions and personal development. 

Effortless Transformation and Commitment to Creativity

While creativity can lead to transformation, the notion that this process is entirely effortless and requires no energy or action is not fully supported by academic research. Creative endeavors often demand significant mental effort, time, and persistence. However, a strong commitment to creative practice can make the process more engaging and intrinsically motivated, potentially reducing the perception of effort. The key lies in the balance between challenge and skill, where individuals may experience a state of 'flow,' characterized by deep immersion and enjoyment in the activity. 

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4SPACE: Attuning Chronic Wiseness

Chronic wiseness challenges the notion that wisdom emerges only in hindsight. It recognizes that transformation is not a singular event but an ongoing process—one that unfolds not after suffering has been resolved, but in the belly of it. It is wisdom that does not wait for relief but exists in the tension between pain and insight, between loss and profound understanding.

Defining Chronic Wiseness

Chronic wiseness is:

This kind of wisdom often arises from defining life events such as chronic illness, prolonged grief, or deep betrayal. It manifests as a profound shift in perception—one that does not seek to “return to normal” but instead embraces a new way of seeing, being, and relating.

The Growth That Happens Inside the Suffering

While mainstream psychological frameworks often suggest that meaning is found after hardship, there is growing evidence that meaning-making happens within suffering itself. This contradicts the linear model of trauma recovery and instead supports a simultaneous process of pain and transformation.

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Academic Research on Growth Within Suffering

5 — ENERGY: Finding home through Intergenerational Wisdom: Good for the greater good

Intergenerational Wisdom

The transmission of wisdom across generations has been shown to offer significant benefits for both younger and older individuals. Programs designed to facilitate intergenerational interactions, such as the Building a Community Legacy Together (BCLT) initiative, have demonstrated that structured wisdom-sharing activities enhance adolescents' social-emotional development and provide older adults with a sense of purpose. Empirical studies reveal that these exchanges foster mutual respect, improve communication skills, and bridge generational divides, thereby enriching community cohesion and individual well-being. 

Intergenerational Innovation

Collaborative efforts that harness the diverse perspectives of multiple generations have been found to drive innovation within organizations. Research indicates that intergenerational teams, which combine the technological proficiency of younger members with the experiential knowledge of older members, are more adept at problem-solving and generating creative solutions. This synergy leverages the strengths of each age group, leading to enhanced organizational performance and a more dynamic approach to addressing complex challenges. 

Intergenerational Vision

Developing a shared vision that encompasses the aspirations of different generations is crucial for sustainable organizational leadership. Studies suggest that intergenerational leadership models, which integrate the values and insights of both emerging and established leaders, promote resilience and adaptability in the face of change. Such models encourage mentorship, continuous learning, and the alignment of long-term strategic goals with the evolving needs of the workforce, thereby fostering a culture of inclusivity and sustained growth. 

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Ancestral Wisdom: Tiwaz: Justice & Sacrifice

Symbolism and Meaning

Tiwaz (ᛏ) is the rune associated with Týr, the Norse god of war, justice, and sacrifice. It represents themes of honor, discipline, courage, and self-sacrifice—all qualities exemplified by Týr, who sacrificed his hand to the wolf Fenrir to uphold cosmic order. As the warrior’s rune, Tiwaz signifies both physical and moral strength, as well as the pursuit of justice, even at personal cost.

The rune is often linked to leadership, law, and victory, but unlike the brute force of battle, its victory comes through strategy, integrity, and righteous action. It is considered a rune of guidance and self-discipline, often appearing in contexts that demand perseverance, ethical choices, and the willingness to endure hardship for a greater cause.


Historical and Cultural Context


Modern Interpretations


Academic Findings and Scholarly Perspectives

Choosing the Right House at the Right Time

We believe, you will land in the right house, and the right event at the right time, regardless of how you get there. We believe everything is occurring in good order, meaning if you land in a house whether it feels 'right' or not, it is the house meant for your right now. Each house is determined by characteristics, concepts, values and beliefs and an overall vision. If the vision fits you, then you fit the house and if it doesn't, if something becomes alive in you, it may be exactly what you need in that moment.


Research on regrets of the dying

Bronnie Ware's Blog Post: "Regrets of the Dying"
a palliative care nurse, shares the most common regrets expressed by her patients.

Academic Article: "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing"
 

Meta-Analysis: "What We Regret Most... and Why"
A study analyzing common life regrets across various domains.

Psychology Today Article: "Learning From the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying"
An exploration of Ware's findings and their psychological implications.

The Guardian Article: "Top five regrets of the dying"
A summary of Ware's observations from her time in palliative care.


Forbes article: "The Top Regrets Of The Dying And What We Need To Learn From Them"
An article discussing the common regrets of the dying and lessons to be learned.


Chronic wiseness is the deep, embodied understanding that emerges not after suffering, but within it. Unlike the neatly packaged concept of post-traumatic growth, which implies transformation happens only after the crisis has passed, chronic wiseness acknowledges that wisdom can take root during the most difficult moments. It is not the triumphant arc of overcoming but the slow, ongoing integration of truth, often shaped by pain that does not fully resolve.

Wisdom is not just knowing—it is the end of chasing. Chronic wiseness is the weight of understanding without release, the exhaustion of carrying every lesson but never stepping beyond the cycle. True wisdom is transformation, but transformation is a paradox—it happens when we stop grasping for it. The courage to express what we feel, to stand in vulnerability, is what allows us to fall to grace rather than from it. Protection may keep us safe, but it also silences creativity, dulls experience, and traps us in survival. Justice wielded without balance destabilizes rather than restores, keeping us lost in the fight rather than finding the way forward. We are lost until we are sound—until we attune ourselves not just to truth, but to resonance, where wisdom is not just held, but lived.

Falling to grace is not easy. It takes courage to let go of what we know and trust in what we cannot yet see.

It means facing the fear of being unworthy, of not being enough, and still choosing to stand open-hearted. It is the opposite of control—it is faith in something deeper than pride or power.

The fall is not the end. It is an invitation—to step into a life that is truer, freer, and filled with the grace that only surrender can bring.

Tiwaz is more than just a warrior’s rune—it represents justice, discipline, and righteous action. Whether seen through a historical, psychological, or mythological lens, it continues to symbolize the power of sacrifice and unwavering commitment to higher principles.

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Justice is essential. It acknowledges harm, restores balance, and ensures truth is seen. Without it, healing can feel incomplete—like a wound left to fester. The need for justice is not just valid; it is a force that shapes meaning from pain.

But to live from that need can unsettle the very order we seek to restore. It demands a sacrifice—not just of time or energy, but of inner peace. When justice becomes the only anchor, it can pull us into resentment, fixation, and exhaustion.

Falling to grace does not mean abandoning justice but giving way to something deeper—allowing space for healing, even when justice remains incomplete. It is to bow, not in defeat, but in trust that something beyond retribution can still bring wholeness.